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Dimi's avatar

Spot on, it's all about the light in the tunnel. Well written, great post!

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The Naive Ignorant's avatar

Thanks Dimi, I 'm glad you liked it. I sincerely hope that this post resonates with as few people as possible. Being in a long distance relationship is not fun.

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Barbs Honeycutt's avatar

I've never heard that quote (hope is not a plan) but it's 100% fitting! I 'hoped' to go to japan to be with my long-distance bf at the time, all while not even studying japanese and as I was planning for a 3-year degree in Italy. He had all the rights to call it quits and did I learn? nahhhh. watch me enter another long distance relationship with a guy in England! Having a plan is applicable to in-person relationships too! But that's something people barely realise.

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The Naive Ignorant's avatar

Thanks for sharing your experience. I don't think people do not realize it. I think it is in our nature to avoid problems we know cannot be solved. Just like when you have a ton of studying to do before an exam and you know it is impossible, so you take a nap instead. Similarly, if we want to be with a person, but we know it will not work, we prefer to avoid facing the reality of an impossible plan.

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Barbs Honeycutt's avatar

team: "running away from my problems" !

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The Naive Ignorant's avatar

Yeap us and another 8 billion people😂

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